When James’s mother, Ellen, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, their family assumed they could make medical decisions for her as needed. They had heard about healthcare proxies before but figured they weren’t necessary. “We’ll just tell the doctors what she would have wanted,” James thought.
But when Ellen could no longer communicate her wishes, the family found themselves in a heartbreaking situation. Disagreements arose over what kind of care she should receive. Her doctors couldn’t act without legal authority, and the family had no choice but to go through the court system to obtain guardianship. The emotional toll was overwhelming, and they wished they had taken steps earlier to legally document Ellen’s healthcare wishes.
Many families find themselves in similar situations because they fall for common myths about healthcare proxies. Let’s set the record straight.
Myth #1: “I Don’t Need a Healthcare Proxy Unless I’m Old or Sick”
Accidents and medical emergencies can happen at any age. Healthcare proxies are essential for everyone over 18, not just the elderly or ill.
Myth #2: “My Family Will Just Make Decisions for Me”
Without a Healthcare Proxy, medical professionals cannot legally take instructions from your loved ones. In the absence of legal documentation, hospitals often default to life-sustaining treatments—even if that’s not what you would have wanted.
Myth #3: “A Will Covers My Medical Decisions”
A will only takes effect after death. A Healthcare Proxy ensures that your medical choices are honored while you’re still alive but unable to communicate.
Myth #4: “I Can Just Write My Wishes Down”
A handwritten note isn’t legally binding. A properly executed health care proxy, signed and notarized, ensures that medical professionals and loved ones must follow your wishes.
James and his family learned the hard way that assumptions don’t protect you in times of crisis. Avoid uncertainty and family conflict—register for a free estate planning workshop to ensure your medical decisions are honored.Health Care
